2017 is coming to an end and it’s almost time to relax and unwind. Or perhaps not. A simple google search on why people can’t relax, finds disturbing search related results such as “can’t relax anxiety, I can’t relax anymore, why can’t i relax my body, how can i relax my mind, can’t relax at night, I can’t relax my muscles, how to relax with anxiety disorder, why can’t i relax and stop thinking“. More painful than the grammatical and spelling errors in these searches was the dumbfounding realisation that despite us proving the law of relativity, developing artificial intelligence and travelling to the moon and back, we just can’t nail down the simple task of relaxing.

But it comes as no surprise when everything requires some sort of work or stress – even the supposedly relaxing activities, such as camping and hiking, are now purposed-filled endeavours to lose weight or become fit.

While it’s easy to mention the mental effects of stress, which includes ruminating, unclear judgement, depression and anxiety, the inability to relax have major effects on physical health. Are you struggling to lose weight? Is your high blood pressure high? Are you having digestive problems? Have you and your migraine become best friends? These are all stress related issues.

So, what are some ways to master the art of relaxation?

Perform exercises such as yoga

By holding yoga postures you place your body under self-induced stress. This type of stress directly affects and strengthens the nervous system. As you begin to strengthen the nerves, you reduce the urge to succumb to external pressures that may cause stress. In this way, through physical exercises, you learn to tap into an internal peace, making you a more relaxed and centred person.

  

 

Meditation

Meditation and yoga are inter-related activities, but if you’re not into the physicality of eastern practices, you may want to try meditation. The basic philosophy of meditation is keeping your mind focused on one point. When doing so, you leave no room for ruminating/scattered thoughts and intentionally begin to place your mind under discipline. This type of discipline allows you to put to rest any stressful thoughts that may be disturbing for much-needed relaxation. Focal points include concentrating on your breath, your pituitary gland (third eye), or finding any external gazing points also known drishti gaze.

Unplug

The research on the negative effects of mobile screens and laptops is abundant and clear. Yet we still find ourselves messing around with the stuff on vacation or just before bed. Screen addictions are real and if you are struggling to hand over the goods here are a few tips:

  • Invest in an alarm clock – leave your phone out of the room when going to bed.
  • Upon waking up, don’t use your phone for the first 30 minutes of the day.
  • Make time for no-phone sessions.
  • Turn your phone off when driving.
  • Opt for real conversations.

Easy on the booze

As much as we love the liquid courage, alcohol may not be the best option when you’re trying to relax. In fact, alcohol consumption increases insomnia and reduces REM sleep patterns. Furthermore, it inhibits common sense and sound judgement. As with everything, moderation is key when it comes to alcohol.

Add more nature to your surroundings

Whether it’s a small plant or a big forest, the presence of nature in our surroundings is an important factor when trying to relax. Not to mention, the scientific effects of nature on our overall happiness. 

Add more music to your life

Recent studies found that music reduced the cortisol levels in the body. Cortisol is the hormone released when the body is under stress or you’re feeling anxious. Besides being a stress management tool, music gives way to a feel-good ambience and has long-lasting effects on the body.

Alan Cohen says ““There is virtue in work and there is virtue in rest. Use both and overlook neither.” It’s time to find your virtue in rest in master the art of relaxation.